I Quit Instagram (on Mondays)

A couple weeks ago, I decided I was going to be off all social media platforms at least once a week. I chose Monday because I wanted to start my week with better habits.

The first thing I do every morning is check my phone and my fingers automatically go to Instagram. I mean, it feels like I’m in a vicious cycle that I can’t get out of.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Instagram. It has brought a lot of special connections and it has allowed me to grow Styld by Grace beyond the blog. So being off of it completely on a Monday, when most people are on and catching up from the weekend, can be nerve-wrecking. There’s this feeling like I’ll lose these very important connections I’ve made.

The truth is I won’t be missing out on anything. There is always tomorrow and there’s always an opportunity to delivery great content and connection, no matter what day it is or in which way it’s delivered.

But at the end of the day, my eyes have to be focused on what’s in front of me more than what’s on my phone. My default cannot be scrolling endlessly and in turn neglecting what I have in front of me.

So if you’ve been feeling like you need a little detox from social media for whatever reason, here are some healthy alternatives I’ve replaced it with on Mondays. Read on…

Connection: investing in my relationships

“Are you even listening to me”? I don’t know how many times my husband has said that to me while I’m glued to my phone. Of course I pretend I know exactly what he was saying. (And pretend is the keyword because I’m totally zoned out). This is what motivates me the most to keep going with No Instagram Mondays. Truly connecting with the people I love. Without needing a like, a comment, a share, or any form of validation. Just simple quality time. I’ve also started an email series, “From My Desk To Yours”, for my newsletter subscribers where I share things floating around my desk like my weekly favorites, podcasts, music, and stuff that’s on my heart. It’s such a freeing way to invest in my community without expecting nothing in return.

Faith: connecting with God

The part of me that’s affected the most from being off of social media for a day, on a weekly basis, is my walk with God. I can’t say I’m perfect at this. But eliminating one thing that distracts me from connecting with God is very helpful. Like I said, my instinct is to open Instagram first thing every morning. But knowing I can’t on Mondays, gives me a reason to open the Bible app instead. Or it gives me a reason to listen to Sunday’s sermon again. And on my downtime, instead of scrolling I can actually pray about the stuff that’s worrying me. There is time for connection with God. Sometimes we just are too distracted and don’t make room for it.

Rest: giving my mind a break

At times I feel that my brain needs a break from my phone. My mind needs a break from all the information, updates, memes, and heartbreaking news. Seriously, what am I fueling my mind with? Do I really need to know every detail of every thing that’s happening in the world? I’m not saying I want to be oblivious to what’s happening in the world. I’m just saying I think my mind can’t take in information non stop without processing it in times of rest. In fact, on days when I’ve been off of social media I tend to be less anxious and I’m able to relax a lot easier.

Education: learning new things

On Mondays when I’m tempted to click on Instagram or Facebook, instead I click on my Podcast app. I listen to something that will help nourish my mind. What area in my career, dreams, or goals do I need to learn more about? There’s so much to learn and so many ways to learn new things. Podcasts are just one way. I’ve also watched interviews on Youtube of people who are in my industry to learn how they have navigated their career or entrepreneurial journey.

Friend, if you’re thinking about quitting social media for a day or a week or even a month, there’s really nothing to lose and you WON’T be missing out on anything! It’s definitely not easy and I’ve messed up more times than I’d like to admit. But we shouldn’t put all our eggs in one basket. There’s so many ways to connect, learn, grow, and invest in ourself and others.

If you try it, let me know if any of these alternatives helped you too.

Wonderful Christmas Giveaway

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year. And today just happens to be my 28th birthday! I love that my birthday lands during the holidays. It makes for a more cheerful and happy birthday. To celebrate, I’m throwing an Instagram party! I want to celebrate with you there by hosting a wonderful CHRISTMAS GIVEAWAY. You’ll have a chance to win the “It’s The Most Wonderful Time of The Year” Christmas greeting card (pictured above) with a special little treat tucked inside.

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What’s the special little treat you might ask? Well… you’ll have to go to Instagram and find out there 😉 I wouldn’t want to spoil the surprise. Let’s just say your Target runs will be filled with EXTRA cheer.

Giveaway ends tomorrow at midnight and the winner will be announced on Instagram. So, whatcha waiting for?! Click here to enter to win!

The Not-So-Glamorous Life of Instagramming

Ever wonder how people can look so good on Instagram? How their life, their home, their business, their church, their kids, can look so perfect?

Yeah, I catch myself swooning over and over with all the beautiful and perfect lives I see pictured throughout the week. And then I catch myself comparing my life to their lives. And sometimes that ugly green monster called Envy wants to settle in my heart. No bueno!

Well, I have to admit that as a business owner and creative, I try very, very hard to make my appearance seem perfect, too. We all want people to think we have it all together. The reality is none of us do. We are all struggling with something. We are all secretly thinking why we weren’t invited to that get-together. Or why she always has a good hair day and we don’t.

Behind every perfect picture I post, is all the MESS I made to try to make it look perfect. We only see what’s in front of the lens in a 1:1 frame.

Next time you catch yourself wishing to have a better life, better kids, better whatever, remember you only see part of the story, not the full picture. Cut yourself some slack! (Geez, I need to say this to myself every day!) And as I like to say, chose grace over perfection.

Just for fun, here are some NOT-SO-GLAMOROUS pictures of my work space / home because we are all a work-in-progress and so are our lives:

P.S. Yes that’s me with no make-up and crazy hair. And nope, I’m not sorry. 😉