The Not-So-Glamorous Life of Instagramming

Ever wonder how people can look so good on Instagram? How their life, their home, their business, their church, their kids, can look so perfect?

Yeah, I catch myself swooning over and over with all the beautiful and perfect lives I see pictured throughout the week. And then I catch myself comparing my life to their lives. And sometimes that ugly green monster called Envy wants to settle in my heart. No bueno!

Well, I have to admit that as a business owner and creative, I try very, very hard to make my appearance seem perfect, too. We all want people to think we have it all together. The reality is none of us do. We are all struggling with something. We are all secretly thinking why we weren’t invited to that get-together. Or why she always has a good hair day and we don’t.

Behind every perfect picture I post, is all the MESS I made to try to make it look perfect. We only see what’s in front of the lens in a 1:1 frame.

Next time you catch yourself wishing to have a better life, better kids, better whatever, remember you only see part of the story, not the full picture. Cut yourself some slack! (Geez, I need to say this to myself every day!) And as I like to say, chose grace over perfection.

Just for fun, here are some NOT-SO-GLAMOROUS pictures of my work space / home because we are all a work-in-progress and so are our lives:

P.S. Yes that’s me with no make-up and crazy hair. And nope, I’m not sorry. 😉

Grace Glass Mug has Arrived!

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I’m so excited to share the first product of our Fall Collection. Every piece is based around the concept of Grace (you can read more about our design process here). Grace can mean so many things to people. Grace can be a prayer. Grace can mean kindness. Or grace can be considered to be elegance. For us, here at Styld by Grace, Grace is what we stand for.

Grace is open, visible, available, palpable, and unlimited. It’s “larger than life”, while still being simple enough to embrace. Grace is a gift, a treasure that adorns our hearts and lives. Grace is meant to be shared, it’s meant to be savored each and every day. We believe Grace is acceptance. Acceptance from God to be exactly who He called us to be.

And with that, I present to you our ‘Grace’ Glass Mug.

They’re waiting for you at our shop. Click here to get yours!

The Season of Grace

Hello, everyone! I was debating if I should do a Facebook Live or write a blog and I decided to write a blog. One, because I can share pretty pictures here. And two, I ain’t ready for Facebook Live haha! I would love to know if anyone would sign on to hear this shy girl speak? Yes, maybe, no?

ANYWAY! I’m signing in with you all to share a bit of my inspiration for very first Fall Collection. The process of going from blogging to opening shop has been a huge step of faith and it is definitely something that has required me to get out of my comfort zone.

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There’s been a sense of urgency and expectancy for this season. And with that also comes a lot of pressure to perform and do well. I’ve had this thought running around in my head, “Theresa, you need to keep up”. And I didn’t realize that that thought wasn’t healthy. I need to go at the pace that’s right for ME. And trust God to teach me along the way.

Styld by Grace means to be fashioned by God’s grace. To live a life based on grace, not perfection. So… if that’s our vision and I’m the one delivering this mission, I should be the first one living it. But that’s not always the case. When deciding what this fall season theme would be, I chose to keep diving into the concept, the gift of God’s grace. And so the sketches started pouring out. And the creative juices, the words that were stirring up inside of me, were my compass.

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What does a season of grace mean to you? For me it means favor, ease, acceptance, appreciation, giving, harvest. And all these things remind me of beautiful old hymns and songs. It reminds me of gathering with family and praying and giving thanks.

During the next few weeks, you’ll be seeing more and more pieces come from Styld by Grace. They’re pieces based on the elegance of grace, the songs we sing to give God thanks, and the fun and excitement of the harvest season. They all have a connection to what we believe is grace.

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The reason for creating these things? Well, I had to ask myself that question. And at the end of the day, it all goes back to having encouragement in every season of my life that directs my focus to God. And that’s what I desire for Styld by Grace to be for you this season. I hope you’re reminded that this season isn’t about going into overdrive, striving, or performing. It’s about God’s grace: giving thanks, spending time with family while sipping on a cup of coffee, singing along to hymns around a piano or guitar, and just having a good time celebrating the GOOD God has given us and will continue to bless us with.

I hope you love and are blessed by all the beautiful pieces we created! Tomorrow we are launching our first piece, the Grace Glass Mug! You can see a preview of it on our Instagram. Here’s to a GRACE-FILLED Fall season!

3 Things that Build Lasting Relationships

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Let’s stop for a minute and think. Our lives revolve around interacting with other people. Some people we like and others we don’t. Some interactions are good and others are not so good. I wish all the relationships in my life were pleasant and easy. The reality is that relationships, whether it’s your marriage or a friendship, take effort. And whether we like to admit it or not, our relationships matter and mold who we are.

The effort we put into our relationships will influence the course of our lives. The people we meet, the people we love, the people we encounter, our relationships with them can lead to marriage, lifelong friendships, and even our dream job.

According to God’s word, loving God and loving people is our greatest calling. If it’s important to God then it should be important to us. And if we do all things through love for him and others, then our relationships and life will be a whole lot rewarding and meaningful.

Deep down inside, even us introverts, long to build lasting and deep relationships. Even when we have a billion walls up to protect us, we long for fulfilling relationships.

Being married, losing friendships, and leading others have taught me that to build lasting relationships we gotta:

Be consistent
I’m convinced that consistency is the substance that makes up success. When we are consistent we exude trust, reliability, and legitimacy. How can a person who’s late and unreliable keep a job or get a promotion? The same goes for our friendships, marriages, and people we mentor. We have to be there for the people in our lives, in the good and the bad. It’s pretty sad when I realize that I tend to push people away when things get messy. If we study Christ’s attitude towards His relationships, we see His dedication, consistency, and involvement. He was always present, always encouraging, and always showed up.

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Show Grace
Stepping out to be Jesus’ hands and feet at times can cause us to feel helplessness, discouraged or even downright angry. When we are there for people we see the stuff we wish we didn’t. We encounter people’s hang ups and faults. There’s one thing that gives us the strength and courage to keep building our relationships when they get sticky. It’s called grace. When I got engaged I wish I would’ve known that grace was something I was going to need more than ever. If marriage has taught me anything, it’s taught me that grace goes a long way. It actually is what sustains a relationship. Grace tells me to care and love my husband even when he has offended or hurt me. Grace tells me to reach out to a friend who is being distant even if it means disposing of my pride. Grace tells me to stop being so hard on myself when the fish I “cooked” tastes like crap.
P.S. My cooking has gotten a lot better 😉

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Be Vulnerable
The glue that binds it all together is vulnerability. When I hear the word vulnerability the first things that come to mind are exposure and fear. But vulnerability isn’t meant to expose us in a way that’s detrimental. If we lose the fear of being rejected, isolated, or judged, we are open to vulnerability. And when we are vulnerable with the people we love, meaning we are unafraid to show all of who we are, we can show grace when it’s hard and we can be consistent in their lives. The times I’ve been the most vulnerable, in my career or with my husband or with God, have lead to a total “vulnerability hangover”. Have you ever experienced that? I start questioning myself: “Was I too honest, too outspoken, too open, too caring, too loving? Will letting down this wall make me seem weak?” But looking back it’s those moments that have forged relationships, opportunities and have opened doors of success.

To learn more about vulnerability, connection, and letting go of fear, I highly recommend reading Brené Browns, Daring Greatly. It has been an extreme blessing in my life!


What have you learned from past and present relationships about building lasting connections?

What is one practical way you can build your most valued relationships today?

Grace: The cure for perfectionism

grace_perfection_artwork_2In a world where flawlessness, immaculately chiseled bodies, and baby-smooth skin is the norm, there’s very little room to show weakness or imperfections.

Being a girl boss, a hustler, a workaholic, is admired. I cannot lie. I would love to be able to live a perfect life. A life where I can juggle every single opportunity, event, outing, and project that comes my way. All the while nurturing every relationship, making time for the gym and eating only organic food.

What kind of life would that be, though? Where failure, hang-ups, and imperfections never existed. There wouldn’t be any room to embrace, and receive the benefits of a wonderful and mysterious thing called Grace.

God’s grace is better, more reliable, and more stable than any physical or material thing we may obtain. Recognizing that we cannot do it all, let alone do it all perfectly, helps us understand the beauty and empowerment that come from God’s grace. Grace is looking to God to do for us, what we cannot do for ourselves. 

Following our dreams and working hard to accomplish our goals is not the problem. After all, faith without works is dead (James 2:17). When we embrace God’s grace, we surrender our need to be in control. The idea that our deeds, religious rituals, and resources, are the source, is what gets us stuck and overwhelmed.

If we would shift our thinking and allowed His grace to wash over us, the striving, the struggle, and the hustle would have a purpose. Our calling would take a shift and His grace would be the catalyst to achieve what He’s placed in our hearts. Essentially, our striving would turn to worship.

Even in the middle of being wrapped up by His grace, life will have it’s ups and downs. But when we choose grace over perfection, we become aware of God’s forgiveness, mercy and favor. Oh, how reassuring that is for me. And I hope it is for you, too. Regardless of what we do or don’t do, He loves us and cares for us.

When people see what a hot mess I am sometimes and wonder how the heck it all gets done, I have no reason to boast. It is not that I’m perfect or live by a standard of perfection, it is the grace of God that empowers me, gives me strength, and self-confidence to push through.

How freeing it is to know that I don’t have to have all my ducks in a row to receive God’s blessing. His grace is enough. We don’t have to live a “perfect” life or be the “perfect” person. His grace is enough. There’s no amount of good, pretty, nice, or perfect, we can create or strive for, that will ever satisfy. Only His grace is enough to empower, encourage, strengthen, bless, and motivate us on. 

[Bible verse references: Romans 5:8, 1 Timothy 1:16, Ephesians 2:8-9]


What does “Grace over Perfection” mean to you?

I would love to know what God’s grace means to you so I’ve made available free printable “Grace over Perfection” journaling pages. You can download them below! Share pics of what you’ve written about God’s grace on Instagram using #graceoverperfection. Can’t wait to see what you have to share!


Printable ‘Grace over Perfection’ Journaling Pages:

Black & White ‘Grace over Perfection” Journaling Page

Pale Pink & White ‘Grace over Perfection” Journaling Page

Pale Seafoam Green & White ‘Grace over Perfection” Journaling Page