What we can Learn from the Woman who Saved Thanksgiving

File_000 (1).jpegWritten by Laura Smythers

Every fourth Thursday in November, we sit at a long, beautifully decorated table, filled with the most grand turkey, rolls of delicious bread, stuffing, the reddest cranberries, creamy mashed potatoes and gravy, sweet corn on the cob and we top it off with scrumptious pumpkin pie.

Across that table are the people we are most thankful for- family and friends. Can you imagine if that day never existed? If Thanksgiving was lost?! Well, we almost did lose Thanksgiving Day… But, Sarah Hale.

When I taught 5th grade, I loved to read seasonal books to my kids. I had books for every season and holiday, ranging from Valentine’s Day to St. Patrick’s Day and of course, a plethora of books for Thanksgiving and Christmas.

I stumbled across this book, titled “Thank You, Sarah” and it became a classic to read aloud to my students before our Thanksgiving Feast every year.

Sarah Hale was a bold, brave, stubborn, and smart woman that loved celebrating Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving, in her time, was not a national holiday celebrated across our nation.

The Thanksgiving we celebrate today is based on the harvest feast held by the Native Americans and the pilgrims back in 1621, but they did not invent Thanksgiving and it was definitely not a “holiday” that all Americans, on a specific day each year, celebrated.

Sarah had to fight for Thanksgiving and her fight was not a physical fight, she fought with a very powerful tool- a pen.

She wrote letters to every politician asking them to make Thanksgiving a national holiday. She wrote thousands of letters. She gathered other women around her and encouraged them to write letters. As more letters were written, certain states made Thanksgiving a holiday for their individual states, but Sarah was not satisfied.

She wanted it to be national holiday across the United States. She wrote to the president. She wrote to Fillmore, Pierce, and Buchanan, yet all of them said no. Then, she wrote to President Abraham Lincoln.

America needed a national holiday to give thanks now more than ever, in the midst of a war. So she waited and waited, and then Lincoln said YES!

In 1863, President Lincoln made Thanksgiving a national holiday- a day for ALL Americans to give thanks, together. It took Sarah Hale thirty-eight year to accomplish this. Thirty-eight! That’s 13, 870 days, people, but she didn’t give up and accomplished her dream.

When I think about the positive impact that one woman can make, her example comes to mind. We can use our “pen” to mark the lives of others in a powerful and positive way or our ink can spill and we can cause a stain in the lives of those around us that can never be erased.

We can choose to work towards a dream or goal for a few days or be stubborn and not take no for an answer when we really want to accomplish something. As women, we are designed to be communicators. We can communicate life or we can communicate death.

We can empower others to do good and be good, or we can cause them to go astray. Sarah, as a woman, fought as a woman. She didn’t demand equal rights and she didn’t pick a fight.

Sarah recognized the influence of the person she was writing to and didn’t neglect her own. In doing so God used her gifts and talents and gave her the wisdom to share them with an entire generation. We too, can use our “pen” to influence our generation.

We can use the talents, gifts and platforms that God has given us, as women, to change a generation for the good, to save the day for the people we do life with on a daily basis.

Do not let your day be lost. Do not allow your opportunity be lost. Do not give up easily. Fight. Put your pen to paper. Save the day.

How can you save the day by using the “pen” that God has given you? 

P.S. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with family & friends!


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A Newlywed’s Recipe for a Fulfilling Marriage

I had all the ingredients I needed, but didn’t quite understand the directions to the baked breaded tilapia recipe I googled. I really didn’t know what I was doing. The kitchen was a mess, with egg whites all over the counter, and the breading sprinkled on the floor. In the end, the tilapia was more like a spotted, gooey mess and it was not crispy at all. Yuck!


My poor husband ate it anyway. I threw mine away. But, I  was so determined to not let this happen again. The following week I payed more attention to the recipe, prepared the ingredients correctly and had all the right pots and pans. This time around it turned out pretty amazing! And I’m so proud to say that Edward actually enjoyed fish for the first time.

I wish I could share all my crazy newlywed stories with you. (Like when I microwaved a METAL travel mug. Not kidding.) But this one in particular reminds me that to have a fulfilling marriage, we should follow some sort of recipe. Before marriage, I thought that if two people were in love, it would all work out. Well, now I know that it takes effort to keep that love alive.

In the last two years of marriage my ever-evolving recipe for a fulfilling marriage is:

2 Cups of Joy
1 Gallon of Grace
2 Gallons of Devotion
1 Lifetime with God

Take those 2 cups of joy and daily, laugh together. Also, don’t take each other or yourself too seriously. I do lots of silly, air-headed things around my husband. Before marriage, I would avoid doing those little quirks in front of him. Now, it’s inevitable. He sees the good, the bad, and the really silly. So I just decided to count it all joy and I learned to laugh at myself.

Pour the 1 gallon of grace over yourself and your spouse. I make mistakes and I fall short as a wife every single day. So I’m learning to give myself some grace. There is no such thing as a perfect person or the perfect marriage. The beautiful thing about marriage is that it helps you become a more grace-filled person towards yourself and others.

Use the 2 gallons of devotion to care, honor, and serve your spouse. We devote our time to our work, our hobbies, our dreams. Culture tells us that it’s perfectly fine to devote ourselves, and commit endless hours to those things. Yet, marriage is treated so casually.  If we want fulfilling, long-lasting marriages, then we must take time to care for the person we said “I do” to. Let’s make time to cook their favorite meal or help them get ready in the morning or listen to their worries and burdens.

The most important ingredient is 1 lifetime with God. He makes it all work together for our good. Like the times we argue and something mean slips out. Or the times we feel disappointed. He turns those things around for our good when He’s the one we seek after. He gives us the strength, the grace, the self-control to commit to having a fulfilling marriage. At the end of the day, no matter how amazing of a relationship we have with our spouse, it will feel like there’s something missing, if we don’t spend our days seeking God. He’s the source and the main ingredient for a lasting relationship.

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. (Proverbs 17:22)

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. (Colossians 4:6)

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesian 5:33)

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. (Deuteronomy 3:5)

What is your recipe for a fulfilling marriage? I’d love to hear and learn from you!

P.S. Happy 2 year anniversary to my handsome, super funny, incredibly caring and supportive husband, Edward.

How to Satisfy our Hearts Desire for More

“God, I know there’s more. Why do I feel so empty? I have everything I ever wanted and everything I need”. I prayed that with tears flowing heavily from my eyes. I had this feeling like something was missing, but I didn’t know what it was.


Have you ever been there? How ungrateful on my part to feel discontent. At least, that’s what I thought. I have a roof over my head, never go without eating, a great husband, and amazing family and friends. What was wrong with me?

There was a longing in my heart that I couldn’t put my finger on. All the “things” I had, even the people in my life, couldn’t satisfy it. Feeling drained and tired, I cried out to God. “Whatever this feeling is, fill it with you, Lord”. At the time, I didn’t realize that’s exactly what God wanted.

The closer I got to Him, the more I stepped into His presence, the lighter and more joyful I felt. That burden and heaviness I felt slowly diminished as I listened to what God had planned for my life. I didn’t realize that the thirst I was experiencing was God himself drawing me to Him.

I have to admit that many times I try to dismiss that feeling by filling my schedule with more stuff to do. Or I avoid taking a moment to be with God, by being on my phone for hours. (By the way, why is social media so addictive?!) When we come face to face with God, there are things He wants to show us and maybe, just maybe, deep down, we are afraid to know.

The truth is that we all long for more. And we think that the “more” we desire will be satisfied by things or people. We see in the media, that celebrities, millionaires, the rich and famous have it all, but many are addicted to drugs or live promiscuous lives.

Some put their achievements and goals on a pedestal that only God should occupy. Our marriages, the people we love, can also start to occupy the place God is supposed to fill in our hearts.

The reality that I’ve come to discover is that the “more” we long for can only be satisfied by what God has for us. Stepping into His presence to hear from Him can totally be scary because many times His “more” doesn’t align with what we have put first in our lives.

Friend, I invite you to let go of your phone, laptop, open up your schedule and press into His presence. Lean into, walk in, run into His presence. There’s more for your life. Let go of the fear, of the excuses, the idols, and let Him satisfy your longing for more. What He has for you, is greater and grander than any plan, achievement, or material desire, you have in mind.

“The steps of a man are established by the LORD, when he delights in His way.” Psalm 37:23

“The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.” Proverbs 16:9

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